I think you already know what I’m going to talk about. On this special three-part edition of Dean’s playlist, I will be discussing three kinds of crushes that I have noticed are pretty common with my friends and I: the casual crush (“wow, you are something sweet. I like that.”), the “best” crush (“OMG WE HAVE TO BE TOGETHER NOW”) and the crushes that actually work (“MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!”). Â To kick off this mini-series of crush-related posts, let’s talk about the casual crush and my song to describe a casual crush was an extremely difficult choice, but I had to select one of my personal favorites just because like a casual crush, David Choi and Kina Grannis’ My Time With You is light, easy to listen to, but it still makes you think about that special someone that you’ve fallen for.
You’ve been in this situation before: you like someone, your friends tease you about it and you are always denying them. Ah, crushes: Cupid’s painful little tease to us. Crushes suck. You know they do. The denial when your friends tease you, the regret you get when you go through each day without making a move, the self-inflicted mental torment every time you see them and you’re like, “UGH, WHY AREN’T YOU MINE?!” Crushes are one of the most annoying things that you can have on your shoulder, but how do you know what kind of crush you have? Yeah you read that sentence right. There’s more than one kind of crush. They’re like ants that go into your house: they’re in different shapes and sizes, but they’re all the same insects and they all still annoy you.
A casual crush is the first on my list. Casual crushes can be summarized to liking someone because of the little things that you know about them, such as their physical appearance, a couple personality traits you may have heard about them and some quirks that you’ve seen them act like. You can have a casual crush on just about anyone, from that cute girl in your English class to one of your coworkers at a summer job. Casual crushes do tend to last quite a long time, from a couple of weeks to a few months because the person you’re crushing on is just so pretty and you want them and you’re like, “Yo, you’re cute. I’m not. Opposites attract.”
Among my friends and I, casual crushes happen pretty often. I hang out with the nerdy, socially-awkward gamers and geeks practically every day and let’s face it: most, if not all of your geeky friends have a crush on someone in your school. Being so socially awkward as they are, they don’t really talk to their crushes, sometimes barely, and I would complain but I have those moments too. You only know bits and pieces of that person so, at least in my case, I fear that if you say something to them, it just won’t work out. Well, no that’s not how it works. Here’s how it works with me AND my friends:
That’s a common fear with all crushes: actually confronting your crush. Confronting a casual crush, in my opinion, is HARD. It’s actually not that easy. Imagine trying to just casually say “Hi” to your casual crush. You turned the other way, didn’t you? Here’s why it’s hard to confront your casual crush:
- Do they know you? If you have never spoken to them before, then odds are you’re not getting a chance to be with them yet, buddy.
- What is it about them that you like so much? Their eyes? Their personality? Everything? I like to initiate small talk with a casual crush about something that I like about them, that way you have a common thing to talk about to know each other about. And while I’m on the topic of small talk,
- Is it easy to talk to them? Basically, if you can start small talk with her, then for sure, you can go for it, but one step at a time.
Casual crushes, in my opinion, are common nuisances. You can get rid of them within a few months or they can stick for a while longer, it depends on you. Keep in mind those three things when thinking about your casual crush ’cause who knows? You might be talking to them one day and you’ll be like, “wow, this is easy!”
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